Excuses Excuses
Mike Puddicombe Whenever we are faced with something difficult or outside our comfort zone, our instinct is often to explain why we cannot do it. Excuses come quickly and, if we are honest, they often sound reasonable. I see this in my own life on a regular basis. Each week when I try to schedule time to go to the gym, I am amazed at how many reasons I can come up with to avoid it. I am even more amazed at how often I listen to those reasons. What feels like a small, personal habit actually reveals a much larger pattern. When something is hard, inconvenient, or uncomfortable, we tend to justify staying where we are.
Declining and dying churches are no different. They rarely lack awareness. Most leaders can see what is happening. Attendance is shrinking, energy is fading, and impact in the community is diminishing. The deeper issue is not awareness but response. Too often, leaders and congregations explain their inaction with a series of well-worn excuses.
These excuses are not random. They are rooted in fear.
Some leaders are afraid of failing publicly. They see other churches struggle or close, and they quietly decide it is safer to maintain the status quo than to risk visible failure. Others carry disappointment. They came with vision and expectation, but reality did not match what they imagined. Rather than recalibrate, they retreat. Some fear the cost of change. They know revitalization will require hard conversations, difficult decisions, and the willingness to disrupt long-standing patterns. Others doubt their own ability. They question whether they have the leadership capacity, the knowledge, or the stamina to lead renewal.
Excuses are often just fear dressed in reasonable language.
Why Fear Must Be Addressed First
If excuses are the surface issue, fear is the underlying problem. Until fear is confronted, progress will remain limited.
Fear narrows vision. It keeps leaders focused on what might go wrong instead of what could be redeemed. It reinforces comfort zones and discourages risk. Over time, fear becomes a governing force in decision-making. Churches begin to choose preservation over mission, safety over obedience, and routine over renewal.
This has real consequences.
A culture of excuses prevents growth and it blocks leaders from discovering new capacities within themselves. It blinds congregations to opportunities that are already present. It keeps gifted people sidelined and potential unrealized. In many cases, it slowly leads a church toward irrelevance.
The tragedy is not simply that a church declines. The greater tragedy is that it never discovers what it could have become.
The Hidden Cost of Excuses
Excuses feel protective in the moment, but they are costly over time.
They limit spiritual imagination because when a church convinces itself that change is impossible, it stops asking what God might do next. This reduces ministry to maintenance and it removes urgency from the mission.
They also erode leadership credibility. People can sense when leaders are hesitant or uncertain, so, when excuses become the dominant language, confidence in leadership weakens and momentum stalls.
Perhaps most importantly, excuses keep churches from stepping into opportunities that require faith because new possibilities are often uncomfortable and uncertain. If a church is conditioned to avoid risk, it will miss the very moments where renewal could begin.
Common Excuses That Stall Revitalization
While every church has its own story, the same core excuses appear again and again.
“The task is too demanding.”
This is true. Revitalization is demanding. It requires perseverance, clarity, and a willingness to endure resistance, but difficulty is not a valid reason to avoid the work. In many ways, the difficulty confirms the importance of the task.
“I don’t have the talent.”
Many leaders feel this internally but rarely say it out loud. The assumption is that revitalization requires a unique or rare skill set when, in reality, it requires faithful leadership, teachability, and consistency. Competence can be developed. What matters most is the willingness to grow.
“The time is not right.”
This excuse often sounds strategic, but it usually masks hesitation. There will always be reasons to delay. Waiting for ideal conditions often results in doing nothing at all. In declining churches, time is not neutral and delay accelerates decline.
“The teaching is dangerous.”
Meaningful change often requires confronting unhealthy patterns, traditions, or assumptions that can create tension. Some leaders avoid necessary teaching because they fear conflict or pushback. Yet without truth, there can be no transformation.
“I cannot change.”
This is the most limiting excuse of all. It assumes that growth is no longer possible. It denies the very foundation of spiritual formation, which is that people can be transformed over time. When a leader or a church adopts this mindset, revitalization becomes impossible before it even begins.
Moving Beyond Excuses
If excuses are rooted in fear, then the path forward requires intentional courage.
This does not mean ignoring reality or pretending the challenges are small. It means acknowledging the difficulty while refusing to be controlled by it. It means choosing obedience over comfort and action over avoidance.
Leaders must begin by examining their own thinking. Where have excuses taken hold? What fears are driving those conclusions? Naming these honestly is the first step toward change.
From there, progress comes through small, deliberate actions. Revitalization is rarely the result of a single dramatic decision. It is built through consistent steps taken over time. Each step challenges fear and builds confidence.
It is also important to reframe failure. In revitalization work, not every initiative will succeed. That is not a sign to stop. It is part of the learning process. Churches that move forward are not those that avoid failure, but those that refuse to be defined by it.
A Final Challenge
Every declining church faces a choice. It can continue to explain why change is not happening, or it can confront the fears behind those explanations and begin to move forward.
Excuses will always be available. They are easy to find and easy to justify.
But they come at a cost.
If a church never challenges itself, it will never discover what God might do through it. If a leader never steps beyond fear, they will never fully understand their calling or capacity.
New opportunities are rarely obvious. They are often hidden behind risk, uncertainty, and the need for courage. The question is whether we are willing to move past our excuses long enough to find them.
I’m off now, the gym is waiting.
